Confidence.  It’s what gives a guy power.  When it’s is high, he is unobstructed by limiting beliefs and seems to be unstoppable.  When it is low, nothing seems to go his way and it seems as though he will never prevail.  Not many people know what confidence is, they just know they want more of it or, in the case of some, that they have it under control.

There is a great misconception here, however, and once you can understand the true nature of confidence you can begin to circumnavigate the problems you may be having.

Some guys just seem to be cool no matter what happens.  Nothing gets them down.  Yet for some of us, it seems that right when you’re on your way out of the hole, something comes along and knocks you right back in again.  Sound familiar?  It certainly does for me.

How can you get past all that?  What if you’re just unlucky and more stuff happens to you than to other people?

Here’s where the misconception comes in.  My number one rule for confidence is this:

NO EXTERNAL SOURCE CAN STEAL AWAY OR “SHAKE” YOUR CONFIDENCE.

Only you can do this.

This is because confidence is freedom from doubt, or belief in yourself and your abilities.  This means that it is all in your head.  While this is simple in concept, it is far from easy.  Confidence, being a huge source of power, is like a treasure locked within yourself.  We all come equipped with everything we need to shield this from all the forces that threaten to take it away or rattle it.

Picture a single sentry standing guard over this treasure.  That’s you, your mind.  Some guys don’t know that he exists (they do not think it’s possible for themselves to become confident), so he’s pretty much asleep at his post and anything and everything that comes along has free access to rob him of power (he gives it away without a fight).  Other guys know he’s there, but they don’t have faith in his abilities.  These are the guys that can fend off some things (usually things they’ve dealt with), while the rest is able to break through.  This is because they underestimate the power of their ability to be confident.

The truth is that you can get to a point where your confidence burns relentlessly and fuels your every action.  You must first recognize that you have a choice, always, in how and when your confidence gets shaken.  The more you practice consciously fending off things that threaten to take away your confidence, the better you will be able to deal with more difficult things.

Practice it.  Make an effort.  That sentry can defend your confidence from anything, but you have to train him to do so.

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